vendredi 5 février 2016

My partner is having an affair with a woman abroad. Should I fight for our relationship?

We’ve been together for 13 years and he has sex with a woman he meets on foreign work trips. He is full of remorse but I don’t hear him say he wants to preserve what we have together

My partner of 13 years is having an affair with a woman he meets on work trips. It started 18 months ago and they first had sex in the summer. I confronted him a few months ago and he admitted it. She is 14 years younger, lives abroad and wants my partner to be with her and her young children. We do not have children. Her husband doesn’t know of the affair, but they are separating on grounds of his behaviour toward her – and apparently because he didn’t want children. I am heartbroken and feel betrayed. Things have been so good between us, though we have both experienced several losses and big life events. We have applied for counselling, but although he shows remorse, the affair goes on remotely and I don’t hear him say he wants to fight for our relationship. Is it worth having counselling? Should I just ask him to leave? And how can I stay strong?

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