health and fitness: ‘In an ideal world, this situation would be something you could talk about with your wife. Unfortunately, she’d probably feel pretty bad…’

vendredi 3 juillet 2015

‘In an ideal world, this situation would be something you could talk about with your wife. Unfortunately, she’d probably feel pretty bad…’

‘In an ideal world, this situation would be something you could talk about with your wife. Unfortunately, she’d probably feel pretty bad’

I love my wife. We have a great relationship of 13 years. But I have an employee who is stunningly beautiful. She is 24; I’m 40. I cannot take my eyes off her and when she is in the room I have palpitations. I respect her work and abilities very much, and if I could turn off my intense attraction to her, I would. We have a good working relationship, there is no flirting on either side, but I sometimes have to sit there with my eyes closed. My reactions feel entirely involuntary and very troubling. I don’t feel guilty, exactly, although being married I often wonder whether I should; but it is very distracting and upsetting. I can’t reassign her to work with other people as she is essential to the projects we work on together, but I need this to stop.

There’s no reason to feel guilty about being attracted to your stunning employee. We’re all susceptible to beauty and charm. In an ideal world, this situation would be something you could talk about with your wife. Unfortunately, she’d probably feel pretty bad hearing you’re shutting your eyes because this woman has such a powerful effect on you – though she’d feel much worse if you acted upon this infatuation.