A 20-year-old student, whose mother keeps taking his money, feels trapped by her and doesn’t know what to do. Mariella Frostrup says he needs to lay down some rules…
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The dilemma I love my mum, but she is seriously pushing me. She has zero money, is very deep into her overdraft and spends money on the most absurd things. I have to pay for her food out of my student loan, but she refuses to get a job. She just sits at her desk all day sharing junk on Facebook. I try to be polite and understanding, but whenever I say something about this she accuses me of being “verbally abusive”. She cannot take any criticism even though it is clearly constructive. I appreciate that it’s hard for a parent to receive advice from their 20-year-old son, but should I just leave her to wallow?
Mariella replies I have a theory. There comes a point in every child’s life when you reach the same level of maturity as one or both of your parents. It can take many years to appreciate that the dynamic has significantly altered and is often at the epicentre of other problems between you and your creators.
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