health and fitness: Should I try to rebuild my relationship with my abusive ex-wife?

vendredi 2 octobre 2015

Should I try to rebuild my relationship with my abusive ex-wife?

Although I feel happier out of the relationship I miss my children and still have feelings for my ex-wife. If she offered to reconcile, I would be very tempted

I am recently divorced after 15 years of marriage. The relationship was sometimes abusive, with my wife hitting me on two occasions, in addition to regular verbal abuse. Although, on one level, I realise that I am better off out of the relationship, feel happier now than I did during my marriage and no longer fear coming home, I also miss my two children and still have feelings for my ex-wife. I am worried that if she were to make a move to reconcile, I would be very tempted to accept, as I don’t know if I have the willpower to walk away from a 20-year relationship. Should I just tough it out and work on being a good father to my kids, or, if offered, should I try and change my ex-wife’s behaviour towards me and try to rebuild our relationship?

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