health and fitness: I am infatuated with my wife’s friend

vendredi 3 juillet 2015

I am infatuated with my wife’s friend

Although I have been happily married for 20 years, there’s always been mutual attraction with this woman. I have never responded to her passes but I’ve never desired anyone more. Should I tell her how I feel?

I’m 53, have been happily married for 20 years, and have recently become infatuated with my wife’s friend. There’s always been mutual attraction and flirting, and she told my wife she fancies me, which her husband aggressively confirmed once. Over the years she has made a few passes, to which I never respond. My dad died last year, so did her mum, and then she joined a gym, got a makeover and cranked up the flirting. I’ve never desired anyone more. I’ve tried avoiding her, focusing on work and sport, and visualising her negative points and my wife’s positives. I’ve tried telling my wife, but she doesn’t take it seriously. I’m in therapy. I’m now wondering if I should tell this woman the depth of my feelings and ask her to lay off.

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