I found messages by my wife telling her friends about our sex life

I feel I’m being unfairly judged by others, and I can’t defend or explain myself. I’m pretending I don’t know about it, but I need advice

I found out that my wife is telling her friends about our private life, including details of our sex life, and even our infrequent arguments. We have been married for more than 10 years and have one child. I have a medical condition that meant I had to quit my job. Now I am the one who takes care of all the house chores, and of our son. She goes to the office from morning till night, Monday to Friday. I happened to see her mobile phone when she received a message from her friends: they have this chat group that they made. I read most of them and was shocked to see that they were talking through all their husbands’ problems and their sex lives. I find myself being unfairly judged by others, and I can’t defend or explain myself. I don’t tell anyone negative things about my wife, even close friends. Right now, I’m just pretending that I don’t know anything about it, but I need some advice.

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