I don’t get on with my parents and wonder if I should cut them off

I do love them but feel there is mutual dislike. I can’t control my emotions when I am with them and feel unlovable

I have never got along with my parents. I don’t like them, and the impression I have had since childhood (I am now in my late 20s) is that the feeling is mutual. But I do love them, and think that, deep down, they must love me. Yet, while with others I am calm and laid-back, with my parents I can’t control my emotions. I have, on occasion, become physical (flipping a chair or doing something aggressive near them). I hate the person I become when I am with them and wonder if I am unlovable. The only solution I can see is to cut them off. This would give me the opportunity not to feel utterly worthless and we could all move on. My father thinks there is something wrong with my head and my mother wants to fix things.

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