health and fitness: I’ve recently become sexually fixated on the firm touch of my wife’s gloved hand

lundi 1 février 2016

I’ve recently become sexually fixated on the firm touch of my wife’s gloved hand

I felt it during a ferocious cold snap; there was no question of removing winter garb, but now no intimate encounter has meaning without mentally replaying that night

I’ve been married for 34 years, but recently I’ve become sexually fixated on an event from my youth. It was during a ferocious cold snap; things took an amorous turn, but there was no question of removing winter garb. My younger self responded with unexpected vim to the firm touch of my wife’s begloved hand. Since that time, and especially recently, no intimate encounter has had meaning without a mental replaying of that wintry night.

Your erotic thoughts are your own business, and it is unnecessary to share them with anyone else – even a spouse. Many people have a fairly narrow sexual script, but you have one wonderfully erotic fantasy to replay whenever you want. In my opinion, you should feel comfortable using this scenario privately whenever you wish. But, on a more practical note, as people age it is normal to need direct genital stimulation as a prelude to strong arousal, so your wife’s hand could be providing more than an acting-out of a favourite fantasy.